The Why and the How
I have often heard of the importance of why. It has been said that if you have a strong enough reason to do something, you will be able to accomplish anything. Well, I would like to add to that. First off: is your reason a worthy, healthy reason? If it is for revenge, to spite someone, or to hurt someone, then it could be a strong enough reason, but not a good reason. And that could end up being detrimental to you.
Finding your purpose (why) in whatever you are doing can help you stay the course, get past obstacles, and be victorious. But without the right why, you may lose more than you won. Certain reasons can destroy you by the time you have achieved your goal. So having the right why or reason is an important step not to be bypassed or dismissed. Examine your reason why before committing to it.
But why is only half of the battle. I have had the right why for doing things, but sometimes it was the how that stopped me in my tracks. How do I do it? Which is the best way to do it? Which way will offer the best short and long term outcomes?
Things like fame are chased after by people. Some who are famous thrive, some destroy themselves by accident or on purpose. Their why may not have served them or many times it is how they achieved the fame that did them in.
One of my favorite quotes is from Creating Money by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer.
“The process of getting there is the quality of being there.”
To me, that means that how you get where you want to go determines what it will be like when you get there. When people say it is lonely at the top, how did they get to the top? Probably NOT by making friends along the way. Probably they alienated people, cut corners, and lost friends to get there. So, of course it would be lonely when they arrived. Who did they expect to be there? There will be the people they paid to be there: staff, manager, agent, work colleagues, etc.
Every good why to do something should have an equally good how to get it. Your reason for getting your goal should be as good as the way that you achieve it for true success.
Do you have a good why? What about your how?