It is the accepted practice to wear a white dress, gown, or suit to get married if you are the bride in the U.S.A., even if you’ve been married previously. White, personally, is not my favorite color; I avoid it whenever possible. No white shirt, skirt, or shoes for me. A bridal shop is a sea of white to me; it feels a bit like a uniform, much like a chef or a doctor wears white. I’m not fond of uniforms, either.
I really liked that Valerie Bertinelli’s wedding dress was blue. I thought it seemed a bit daring and fun. It’s not for everybody. If I were ever to get married, I’d choose a color that I really like for that special dress. Not any shade of white: off-white, ivory, cream, eggshell, not even light gray.
Sofia Coppola got married recently and her wedding dress was lavender. Reese Witherspoon got married in a pale pink dress. I was hoping that Kim Kardashian might ‘push the envelope’ by not choosing a white wedding gown. She chose a lovely Vera Wang gown, white, of course.
According to Wikipedia, the tradition of the white wedding gown started in 1840 with Queen Victoria, and became a tradition in the U.S.A. after World War II. White is for the bride, black is for funerals. Some traditions are worth breaking, if you choose. Fashion can be a tradition, too.
“Don’t wear white after Labor Day” is quite dated advice today. So take a chance, wear what you want and feel comfortable in, regardless of the color and even the occasion. Use your judgment, of course. But don’t be so tied to tradition; feel free to make some new ones of your own. Have you ever considered doing something different from what is expected?